Are you ready to find peace from your concerns about your child?
Would you like to find ways to help with all the worrying?
Some say you are only as happy as your unhappiest child.
When your child struggles with substance use, you most likely feel frustration, anger, resentment, and deep sadness.
In the same way, a beautiful day can be bittersweet for those parents who are concerned about their child with a son or daughter who is using substances.
Any of these scenarios can be problematic for family members, especially parents.
Our brains look for the negative so that we are aware of anything that can bring harm. As substance use enters the family door, so often, all you see is negativity.
Rather than focusing only on the negative, remain calm, and find ways to bring peace in your life when drug and alcohol use is front and center.
You can live and enjoy the present. You can learn to be happier as you help yourself and your child change.
When you solely focus on the negative, it can often prolong the problem. Arguments can happen. Words can be said that everyone regrets, which leaves family members feeling worse.
Dealing with substance use is not easy. But if you have forgiveness for the past, appreciation for the present, and hope for the future, peace can find its way back into your life.
Some people and events are difficult to deal with, but they can only stress us if we let them. Breathe in calm, breathe out chaos, and anchor yourself in peace. ~ Lori Deschene
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Here are seven ways to help you let go of worry and find a calmer tomorrow:
Find peace by saying goodbye to resentment and anger.
Sometimes our emotions get the better of us. When you have bad feelings and anger, you cannot help your child. The past may have been painful, but it’s behind you now.
It is time to create a better tomorrow. Take time to work through your feelings. It will give you a chance to forgive, let go of negativity, and embrace all that is going well.
When you do, you will find room to open your heart so that your future is brighter and filled with love and possibility.
Look for the good
While it can sometimes feel that your life is full of negativity because of a loved one’s substance use, look for anything your child is doing well. In addition, acknowledge and reward it whenever possible.
It may feel like this is something you shouldn’t have to do, yet studies show that reinforcement can be a way to motivate your child to want to change. In the same way, you will feel more positive about life. Things will look brighter.
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Practice being calm, relaxed, and collected
Sometimes you have to “fake it until you make it.” When you smile often, it will help you feel happier. Think good thoughts. Enjoy memories of past family celebrations, yet live for today.
Even those dealing with tremendous obstacles are often still able to be present, grateful, and calm. You may be struggling, and that is understandable. When you put the time and effort into bringing peace and joy into your life, you and those close to you will feel better.
Positively talk to your loved ones.
Ask your child questions using words such as what or how. Listen to what they have to say. Appreciate what they have accomplished, even if it is baby steps. Also, ask permission before you share your concerns or give information. They will be more open to hearing what you have to say.
Try not to go on and on. That is an easy way for ears to plug up. Your child will not hear or digest your message. If you realize your child is not receptive, stop, and consider a better time to talk to them.
Do something enjoyable for yourself.
You will feel better, make wiser decisions, and model healthy behavior for your child when you enjoy life. Remember to fill your bucket regularly. Don’t try to drive down the road on empty.
You are entitled to an enjoyable day, not just today but every day. Make time for yourself. Don’t be your own worst enemy, be your best friend instead. You are worth it, so take some time for self-care.
Distract yourself from worrying
Worrying doesn’t solve any problems. It just creates an unhealthier you. Find things to distract your mind. Set a time each day for worrying and then stop and think about something else.
Snap a rubber band on your hand or find another way to remind yourself to get back to thinking about the present rather than worrying about the future. When you realize your mind is wandering to those dark places, take a deep breath, and return to the present. If everything is okay at this moment, be content with that.
Find peace by accepting what is
It is understandable to wish things were different. You are not alone with those feelings. However, family substance use is not your fault.
Keep positive feelings flowing, and know there is hope for your child. When you face the reality of your situation, the process of finding solutions becomes real. You open up possibilities for healing.
Start the journey of moving forward to a better tomorrow. You can have a happier life. Allow yourself to live your life and feel joy.
Bring peace to your life.
What helps you worry less?
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And consider getting access to my online course, Regain Your Hope, an online course that gives you an action plan to help your child change. Know that your child can change. Love, Cathy
By: Cathy Taughinbaugh
Title: 7 Ways to Stop Worrying and Find Peace When Your Child is Struggling
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Published Date: Sat, 25 Jun 2022 11:25:44 +0000